“Although this often read quotation of “get rid of the toxic people in your life”, for me sounds brutal – I say, you don’t get rid of people no matter how bad they are. People are to be loved.”
So goes my belief as mentioned on a Facebook post shown below. (Note: You can read the original post by clicking the highlighted date). What triggered the brief narrative was when I was browsing through the News Feed and read quite a lot of negative thoughts and quotations which were not fitting to the actual persona and attitude of the posters. In particular, I was a subject of one judgemental post telling me off and was obviously uncaring and callous.
In the past, I have had to put up with people who are “toxic” but I have always understood them and made allowances, sort of giving them the “benefit of the doubt” which, simply put, is giving the person a chance to change for the better. But people just don’t change and no matter how I tried to accept them as they are, I always ended up getting hurt.
So, six years on, my conviction not to be overly caring, as pronounced in the Facebook post, has allowed me to get rid of toxic people and always with a clear conscience.
Had a long introspection earlier and a new, and better (hopefully) strategy, had been concocted!
Weird, as it may sound, I will now learn not to be OVERLY caring. I realized, finally, that this attitude of mine has given me more heartaches than joy. My being idealistic is also another one giving me frustrations.
My time is limited in this world and earlier, I have made up my mind, to just IGNORE, and NOT CARE anymore, for people who are not worthy of my time and attention! Although this often read quotation of “get rid of the toxic people in your life”, for me sounds brutal – I say, you don’t get rid of people no matter how bad they are. People are to be loved – I will now agree to it as something good and start doing it.
So, now, I will stop “wasting” my time reading the News Feeds and commenting whenever I read something contrary to my belief. I would rather make use of the time concentrating on the people directly surrounding me and those outside who I know are in tune with my beliefs and practices. But I will continue to share my life via Facebook, as my wont.