Should We Get Rid of Toxic People in Our Lives?

Although this often read quotation of “get rid of the toxic people in your life”, for me sounds brutal – I say, you don’t get rid of people no matter how bad they are. People are to be loved.”

So goes my belief as mentioned on a Facebook post shown below. (Note: You can read the original post by clicking the highlighted date). What triggered the brief narrative was when I was browsing through the News Feed and read quite a lot of negative thoughts and quotations which were not fitting to the actual persona and attitude of the posters. In particular, I was a subject of one judgemental post telling me off and was obviously uncaring and callous.

In the past, I have had to put up with people who are “toxic” but I have always understood them and made allowances, sort of giving them the “benefit of the doubt” which, simply put, is giving the person a chance to change for the better. But people just don’t change and no matter how I tried to accept them as they are, I always ended up getting hurt.

So, six years on, my conviction not to be overly caring, as pronounced in the Facebook post, has allowed me to get rid of toxic people and always with a clear conscience.

December 12, 2014 

Had a long introspection earlier and a new, and better (hopefully) strategy, had been concocted!

Weird, as it may sound, I will now learn not to be OVERLY caring. I realized, finally, that this attitude of mine has given me more heartaches than joy. My being idealistic is also another one giving me frustrations.

My time is limited in this world and earlier, I have made up my mind, to just IGNORE, and NOT CARE anymore, for people who are not worthy of my time and attention! Although this often read quotation of “get rid of the toxic people in your life”, for me sounds brutal – I say, you don’t get rid of people no matter how bad they are. People are to be loved – I will now agree to it as something good and start doing it.

So, now, I will stop “wasting” my time reading the News Feeds and commenting whenever I read something contrary to my belief. I would rather make use of the time concentrating on the people directly surrounding me and those outside who I know are in tune with my beliefs and practices. But I will continue to share my life via Facebook, as my wont.

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Freda Editha O. Contreras
Writing is a God-given talent which I try to utilize the good way. I used it as a means to earn a living, my very first job after graduating from college, when I got hired as an Information Writer by the Provincial Government of Antique through Governor Enrique A. Zaldivar in January 1982. By profession, I am a Registered Nurse, and was only able to practice it when I got recruited to work in a private hospital in Kuwait. This was in November 1987 and since then I have been living in Kuwait, now retired since June 2002. Because of my knack in writing I got hired in 1994 to write for Kuwait Times and later became an Editor of 'Pinoy News' a weekly supplement of KT. In March 1996 I published the very first independent Filipino newspaper in Kuwait and the Gulf bannered as Pinoy Expat News or PEN. The paper lasted for only 10 weekly issues. This was followed by another publication and came out first as an insert of an ad paper and later as a separate tabloid. I used then 'Pinoy News' as it was my idea the first time it was used for Kuwait Times. This again failed and produced only three weekly issues. I then turned to the Internet and in 1999 I got hired as a Contributing Editor of Suite101.com, a writers' portal on the web. The last of my articles was published December 31, 2002 but my topic 'Overseas Filipino Workers' was still visible until January 2006. All the 38 articles I wrote have been compiled into a book which I published in August 2007. I discovered blogging in 2006 but was not really serious about my writing. I wrote according to my whim. Having this blog under my own domain name is now a welcome development and I plan to concentrate again in writing. As is commonly said: "A writer will always be a writer." http://fredacontreras.com/

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